Due Date, Loss Day & Milestones After a Miscarriage | Episode 127 with Alison Waldrop
Episode 127
Over the past few weeks we have been talking about navigating milestones after the loss of a baby. Milestones like birthdays or difficult anniversaries like a diagnosis day. Today my guest Alison Waldrop joins me to talk about her experience with pregnancy loss and how she navigated her due date and loss day and all the other milestones a grieving mother faces after the loss of a baby. She shares details about the meaningful and intentional ways she chose to honor her baby, why she chose to honor her baby in those ways and what advice she would give to a mom who is anticipating a due date or other difficult milestone.
This episode is going to be particularly helpful for the woman who has experienced miscarriage and may not feel like your loss is worth recognizing -- maybe you are comparing your loss to others who have a seemingly more significant loss or maybe you are feeling the pressure from others to just get over it or you are believing the lie that if you grieve or intentionally mark your milestone days that you are being dramatic or silly. If you have wanted to celebrate your baby but have been hesitating for one reason or another -- this episode is for you. I am so grateful for Alison and her example. Above all, I pray this episode reminds you that a life has value no matter how long they lived. And that you are free to grieve in whatever way feels right and helpful and good to you.
QUESTIONS we discuss IN EPISODE 127
What days felt especially significant to you after you experienced your miscarriage?
Were there any milestones or dates or holidays that surprised you in this grief journey?
You had a really beautiful and meaningful celebration to honor your baby but before we get into those specifics, tell me about your decision to honor your baby in the way that you did?
Tell me about that celebration — did you call it a celebration? What specific things did you do?
You invited others into the celebration with you, tell me about that -- How did you invite them? What were their responses like?
Sometimes women who have experienced miscarriage don't feel like their loss is worth recognizing. What would you say to a woman who might feel that way even though deep down she really wants to celebrate her baby?
Are there any other ways you chose to celebrate and honor your baby’s life?
The first year after my miscarriage was incredibly hard, going through every holiday, and typical yearly milestones, it was as if I grieved in a fresh way — was that true for you as well?
What advice would you give a grieving mom about what to expect or how to prepare in regards to her due date or other difficult dates?
From Alison’s Celebration of Her Baby’s Life
Photography by Lauren Starnes Photography
Photography by Lauren Starnes Photography
Letter Writing Guide
15 Letter writing prompts to reflect and process your grief on important but difficult days like birthdays, due dates, Diagnosis Dates, & anniversaries.
