Hope & Healing After 3rd Trimester Loss (Stillbirth) | Episode 179 with Tori Underwood
Episode 179
This week on the podcast I am interviewing Tori Underwood. A mama to a precious daughter in heaven. Listen in as she shares her story of losing her daughter at 30 weeks with no real answers as to why – I know many of you will be able to relate to her story of being an invisible mother.
We discuss what it was like for Tori to pursue answers and solutions from her medical team to hopefully prevent a similar loss in the future, specifically as it related to her having a uterine septum. Tori shares with me the challenges she faced in taking care of herself after her daughter died, feeling like her body had failed her and made even the simplest things like eating feel impossible. She shares how she navigated that challenge and gives practical advice for anyone who may be facing a similar challenge.
We talk about how she has found healing, the role that therapy and specifically emdr therapy has had in that healing process and why it was important to her to finish her daughter’s nursery even though she would never use it. Tori shares with me what it looks like to mother her daughter in heaven, the practical, simple and beautiful ways she honors and remembers her today.
No matter what your story of loss is – Tori’s story, how she has found healing and the wisdom she has gained in this season will remind you that you are not alone.
QUESTIONS WE DISCUSS IN EPISODE 179
What was it like to navigate the medical system and advocate for yourself?
What surprised you most about loss and the grief journey?
What has been the most challenging aspect of this journey?
What has been helpful to you as you navigated those challenges?
What has healing looked like for you in this season?
You said to me: “I felt like I was drowning and like I should start only preparing for bad things to happen to me.” What would you say to another mom who is feeling similarly?
What are practical ways you mother your daughter in heaven?
How do you answer the question: How many children do you have? Or Do you have any children?
What do you wish others knew and understood about loss, grief and finding healing?
MEET TORI
Hello! I’m Tori Underwood! My husband Cooper and I have been married for 7 years. We have one daughter, Georgia, in heaven! We live in a small town in SW Missouri. I previously was an elementary school teacher. Currently, I spend my time attempting to be a homemaker, spending time with friends and family, and volunteering for a couple local organizations. Cooper and I enjoy working on home and yard projects, cooking, watching sports, and finding special ways to remember Georgia together!
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