Sisters Share About 1st Trimester Loss & 3rd Trimester Loss | Episode 181 with Emily Stinemetz & Tate Drew

PodcastGrief

Oct 27

Written By Ashlee Proffitt

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Episode 181

This week on the podcast I am interviewing Emily Stinemetz and Tate Drew – sisters who have both experienced baby loss. Emily experienced a first trimester loss followed by a season of unexplained infertility and Tate experienced a third trimester loss at 34 weeks.

This conversation is really beautiful and tender as you hear their obvious love, empathy and compassion for one another even as their losses were very different and their motherhood journeys very different. They share openly about how they grieved differently and what it was like to walk with one another through their different seasons of grief and what it was like to be pregnant at the same time, for one to experience loss and then to navigate loving a sister and a baby niece while grieving. About this and navigating their relationship amidst different seasons of each of them grieving while one may be rejoicing, one sister said this:

“We can carry this joy and sorrow together, and we're going to do that as a family. So that's what we did.”

Both women share what they wish others understood about their specific type of loss and give helpful and hopeful wisdom to any woman who is grieving, no matter what type of loss she may have experienced. We talk about comparison in our grief and in our stories. We talk about how to find healing and ways to love a grieving a mom.

No matter your story or what brought you here, this conversation is honest and helpful and hopeful – it will encourage you to do the grief work that leads to healing and will remind you that your loss mattered.

QUESTIONS WE DISCUSS IN EPISODE 181

What do you wish others knew about unexplained infertility after your pregnancy loss and this aspect of your motherhood journey?
What do you wish others knew and understood about stillbirth?
What it was like to walk through the loss of your daughter and then welcome your niece just four weeks later?
What wisdom would you have for a grieving mother who has a close family member or friend with a baby close in age to the baby they lost?
How has your relationship changed over the past few years since experiencing loss together?
Was comparison ever something either of you struggled with in your grief journey? Either with your story of loss or how you grieve or even in what growing your family has looked like after your loss?
In what ways did you grieve differently?
In what ways did you grieve the same?
What advice you would give for how to best support a grieving mom? How did each of you feel best loved and cared for?

MEET EMILY

Hi! I’m Emily. I’m a follower of Christ, wife to Cade, and mom to Blythe (2.5), Hannah (in heaven), and baby Ryle (in utero).. I’m an interior designer by trade and do some freelance work from time to time, but for the most part my days are at home with Blythe and I would not trade it for anything. In my free time you can find me antiquing at my favorite local shops or tending my flowers outside. I love watching my plants flower and grow.

CONNECT WITH EMILY

Via Instagram: @Em__stagram

MEET TATE

My name is Tate Drew; I'm married to Chris and mama to three girls- Avalene, Elowen, and Mariel. We live in Birmingham, AL where my husband is a website developer and I am a part time SAHM and part time medical social worker. We love our little suburb and spend our time on playdates with friends, going to fun local events, playing city sports, and doing activities with our church. I enjoy being outside exploring nature with my girls, gardening, reading, and keeping up with all the latest movies/shows and pop culture happenings. My second daughter Elowen was stillborn at 34 weeks due to a true knot in the cord. She changed my life forever and I'm always thankful for an opportunity to tell her story.

CONNECT WITH TATE

Via Instagram: @tate.s.drew