Letter to the Grieving Mom Whose Miscarriage Still Matters
Shareya Holm
Dear grieving mom,
Your miscarriage still matters.
Now that you’ve gone on to birth living, breathing, healthy little ones, snuggling newborns in your arms, you may think less about your pregnancy loss. However, time’s passing hasn’t negated the significance of losing a baby.
Your miscarriage, now years past, is still worth choosing to acknowledge, share about, and remember.
I see your conviction to honor the child who spent a very short time on earth, cozy within your womb. I also see the doubt that plagues you. In those dark, hidden places you sometimes wonder things like,
“Will I REALLY see my child again?”
“Did he/she TRULY live long enough to be a very real person with a very real soul?”
“Is the early miscarriage I experienced still significant?”
God’s answer to each is always, “Yes, my child.”
Keep your soul pro-life. Remind yourself that your womb held a person you never met. Protect the dignity of the child you lost within your thought life.
It wasn’t “just a miscarriage.”
It wasn’t “like a heavy period.”
“It” was the loss of a child, who you WILL see again.
As the familiar children’s book simply states, “A person’s a person no matter how small.”
You were a mother the day your body contained another separate life, even though your days together were few. Keep seeing the reality of your three children while all those around you only see two.
I want you to know that living in the tension of grief and joy won’t be easy, will take great intentionality, and it will always be worthwhile. In so doing you will follow the Bible’s calling to both rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn.
Mama, your miscarriage still matters.
Love, a mom who understands
MEET THE AUTHOR: Shareya Holm
The first time Shareya measured her life in a 9-month-span was an engagement that ended shortly before her wedding, equipping her with a passion to meet others in their deepest griefs. The second time was her first pregnancy that ended as an early miscarriage. Now Shareya crafts unique art and jewelry keepsakes to help mothers and fathers continue remembering the children they have lost.
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